In “honor” of Valentine’s Day I’m giving you a glimpse into my relationship and what it’s like to be a fitness blogger dating someone not-so-into fitness.
Apologies in advanced to my boyfriend of 5+ years. I’m throwing you under the bus in this post 😂
Jeremy and I have been together since my senior year of college. We’re in a “semi-long distance relationship” as I like to think of it. I’m in NYC, he lives an hour north of here in the town where we both grew up. Because of this most of our time spent together is on the weekends.
When we met, I was just beginning my fitness journey and hadn’t yet started this here blog. He probably didn’t realize what he was getting himself into. Whoops.
Since then, I created this fitness blog, became a certified personal trainer, completed yoga teacher training, and ran my first 5K, half marathon and eventually marathon. And he’s been with me every step of the way, cheering me on.
On the flip side, though, he’s not as passionate about working out or fitness as I am. We never, ever workout together. In fact he rarely works out. He did, however take his first yoga class since high school (!!) at last weekend’s Holistic Happening event taught by yours truly.
Ultimately, it doesn’t bother me.
Despite the fact that Jeremy isn’t into fitness, I haven’t let that stop me from achieving my own fitness goals and maintaining my own fitness regiment.
What to do if you’re into fitness… but your boyfriend isn’t
✨ Workout before he wakes up.
Granted, I’m an AM exerciser either way, but when he’s here for the weekend, I always workout first thing in the morning. By the time I get home he’s just waking up and I’ve worked up an appetite for brunch. Win, win.
✨ We walk. A lot.
I might not ever get Jeremy to take a SoulCycle class, but I can get him to go on long walks with me. It’s a bit trickier during the winter, but in the summer we do a TON of walking together.
✨ I eat as healthy as possible during the week in preparation for the weekend.
I definitely indulge a bit more over the weekend when Jeremy is here. Eating Indian food on Friday’s has been a staple in our relationship since our first date.
Since I’m on my own during the week, I make a conscious effort to make my own meals and eat healthier than I do on the weekends.
✨ Enjoy the benefits of working out solo.
Personally, I prefer working out alone, but in group fitness classes.
I actually kind of like that Jeremy isn’t there during my work outs distracting me. If he was there with me, I’d feel like I need to impress him!
✨ I focus on what we do have in common.
Instead of harping on the fact that Jeremy and I don’t share a love of fitness and can’t enjoy that quality time together, I choose to focus on the things we have in common. We both have a similar sense of humor when it comes to TV shows. It’s pretty easy to find a new show on Netflix to get hooked on. We also share a number of the same favorite bands.
And maybe most important to me, he enjoys theater. I can handle dating someone that doesn’t share my love for fitness, but enjoys theater is a must! I’ll argue he loves Hamilton even more than I do, which is saying A LOT.
✨ The most important thing: he supports what I’m doing.
Training for a marathon last summer definitely affected our relationship. I was cranky and tired all the time and had to change my diet around.
While I wasn’t the most pleasant person to be around during those 18-weeks, Jeremy was also my number one cheerleader, tied with my parents, of course. He’d text me throughout my long runs with words of encouragement.
During the actual marathon he was there with my parents chasing me around the city. And afterwards he stuck around to make sure I didn’t fall in the shower, and went out to dinner with me when I was the most miserable human being, ever.
All of this is to say he 100% supported my decision to run a marathon, and gave me the support I needed every step of the way. I know it wasn’t the most pleasant 18-weeks to be my boyfriend, but he understood this was important to me and didn’t care.
Your turn: is your significant other into fitness?